Getting clarity about Manipulation, Selling & Giving 👊 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I see time & time again all over the world that we as humans are not that clear about those three words at all, and that causes misery to our lives.
1. Giving 🤚 When you are giving someone anything out of your love or an act of kindness and expecting nothing at all in return and not even “a thank u” that’s called giving. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⛔️ Note if you expect anything in return as little as a thanks, your basically Manipulating your way to get what you want whether it’s admiration. or attention. let’s not b.s ourselves😐
2. Selling 🤚 When you are selling, you just sell directly. If someone doesn’t buys from you (basically rejecting you) you don’t feel bad and understand while respecting their choice.
⛔️ Note if you feel bad or are resentful as to why they didn’t buy from you, you are basically manipulating and not selling. A good sales person thinks the best for their customer and if that’s the way the customer wants, then that’s the way it is.
Expecting a long list of favours while selling or giving is an unprofessional way and just adds misery to the person with expectation. This is not a morality class and that’s up to an individual to decide, but whatever are you doing, get clear in your head about it. When you give ... GIVE... When you sell... SELL
In this picture i’m basically manipulating this horse for a beautiful shot, atleast i’m clear about it in my head 🤷♂️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Another cool find in the Ngilgi office… cave tickets from the olden days, when adult tickets cost $1.50 and kiddies got in for a mere 30 cents! These must be post-February 1966, which is when decimal currency was introduced. If you have 'olden days' memories of Ngilgi - or Yallingup Cave as she used to be called - we'd love to hear them!
Second day New york✨:
Neue Erkenntnisse über Sehenswürdigkeiten, immernoch teures Essen, Erstaunlich wenig Gezicke, weiter mit dem Bike 🏍 durch die Ciddy , Donner und 🌩 , erschlichenes Probetraining im Gym! ———————————————————————————
Mehr als 140 von euch haben in unsere Story-Umfrage falsch abgestimmt, 80 lagen richtig.
Die Brücke hinter uns ist tatsächlich die #brooklynbridge , die erste Brücke war die #manhattenbridge ! Hättet ihr nicht gedacht was? Hier gibt es aber auch echt mehr Brücken als gedacht ... fast wie in London. •
- heute hat es ab 16:00 Uhr angefangen zu Regnen 🌧.... und wie es geschüttet hat ☔️.. einfach Wahnsinn... trotzdem konnten wir relativ entspannt weiter draußen rumlaufen, weil es bis spät abends immernoch über 25Grad waren.
Morgen soll die Sonne aber wohl wieder bei 30Grad knallen ☀️... da lohnt sich eine Radtour durch den #centralpark !🌳 -
Hoffentlich finden wir morgen endlich mal die Pizza 🍕 1$ Slices , damit wir nicht Spenden sammeln gehen müssen am Ende des Monats haha! - heute ca. ausgeben haben wir:
Mittags : 20$
A is for Adventure!
A is for Amazing!
A is for Always exploring!
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1 3212 July, 2019
Today we went to Mekong Delta, we visited several islands and learned about and tasted the local fruit.... lychee dosent come in a can apparently 😘🤣😂 I overcame a huge -and ridiculous fear of bees as I held a frame with 1000 bees! 🐝🐝
We went on a tuk tuk truck thingy, through all the back roads and got to see the real world of the people on the island. (Sorry about my very bumpy timelapse but it wasnt the smoothest of roads 🤣😂🤷♀️😘)
We tasted fruits and had green tea and honey tea, the photo with the Bee in my fruit is a lychee, you squeeze the fruit and it splits open. It has a huge pip inside, but very tasty!
We got paddled along the Mekong by a skilled lady who took a call in her phone, whilst still moving us along- they are very excited as they got wifi in 2015 and now have access to the world!
And then there was the snake juice.... yes, that's my shot glass 😅✔ We saw the coconut lollies factory- tasted yummy chewy sweets hot off the press- so to speak *check my stories
via @effiehowens 🌷 "I wish I could fix everything people broke in you. I wish I could erase every person who came into your life and left holes in your heart. I wish there was a way for me to rewind your past and erase every painful memory that made your life a little darker. I wish I had the power to go inside your heart and bring it back to what it used to be.
I wish there was a way to go inside your heart and make it brave again. I wish I could just cleanse your heart and rid it of all the mess, all the chaos and all the heartbreaks. I wish I could show you the kind of love you’ve been missing but darling I’ve learned that love doesn’t work that way and healing doesn’t happen unless you feel it deep inside your soul.
I learned that another human being can’t tell you how you should feel or who you should love or what kind of heart you should have.
Love is the only force you can’t fight even if you know you’re going to lose and I wish I had the power to fight with you but darling that’s one battle you’re going to have to fight on your own.
Because I’m also still healing. I’m still working on myself. I’m still trying to bring my old heart back. And I’m still trying to find a way to fix everything people broke in me. I’m still trying to heal the wounds inside my heart. I’m still trying to be brave again. To trust again. To love again.
And sometimes I wish there was a way for me to stay without losing myself. Sometimes I wish my journey was simple and linear so I can easily turn a blind eye to reality. To the facts that I know too well. To the struggles that I’m still trying to get through.
But here I am, still trying to mend the broken pieces. Still trying to make sense of my journey and still very cautious because I’m not ready to break my own heart again.
Because darling I’ve learned that just like I can’t force you to change your heart or the way you love, I can’t force mine to change either. I’ve learned that if I can’t help you heal, I have to let you go.
I've learned that I need to heal myself first." ♡
words by: @ranianaim