The numbers game is a DISTRACTION.
Your clothing size
NONE of it indicates how powerful you are as a person.
NONE of it speaks to your value.
NONE of it will matter in regards to the legacy you leave behind. °
Repost from @bravebabesmovement by way of @diannebondyyoga. °
#ad [Trigger Warning: Eating Disorder] It took me a long time and a lot of hard work to love my body. Before my body and I loved each other, we were at war. I denied my body food. I mutilated my beautiful skin. And I attacked my own mind, verbally abusing myself from within in a torrent of vitriol, hate, and anger.
In turn, my body rebelled. It ceased all non-vital functions, like growing my hair and nails, or menstruating. It denied me control of my own emotions, debilitating me with unpredictable fits of panic and terror. It focused my mind so intently on food that I had difficulty concentrating on anything else. And when the battle was at its worst, when I had denied my body even a single bite of food for over a week, my body retaliated by shutting down the functions of my heart.
I was only 16 years old when my heart rate plummeted to 30 beats per minute. A doctor told me to start eating again, or I would die. I was dangerously underweight. But I made the decision to live.
I don't talk too much about my ED because it makes me so incredibly sad. Because today, my body and I have a beautiful relationship. I worship my body, and it loves me right back. I treat my body with respect and it repays me with strength, endurance, and resilience. Together, we are an incredible team, capable of achieving any challenges or goals we dream up. And it makes me so sad to think back to the time when we weren't.
But it's important for me to talk about it, openly and publicly, because I know some of y'all out there are struggling too. And I want to let you know that it's OK, I've been there - and it doesn't always have to be this way.
No matter where you are in your journey to self-love, I want to challenge you to make peace with your body today. If you two are at war, call a truce. If you are reconciling, show yourself a little extra love today. One thing that helped me immensely during my recovery was to look at beautiful, positive images of women whose bodies looked like mine. So today, I'm following body-positive Instagrammers (got any faves?) and browsing @CaciqueIntimates!
Tell me what you'll be doing to make peace with your body today!
51 80411 hours ago
〰️ // B O D Y | this is my body. I had my first bra in year 4. I was always sporty, but I hated the attention I got running around at soccer or in a bathing suit at surf club. I have always dressed to hide my figure, making sure I didn’t offend other people with my body, or worse, have people shame me for it. I’d rather look huge, hunched over in baggy oversized clothing than self conscious in something that fitted my body | over the past year I’ve started to find the confidence I had lost throughout my 20s, and learn to appreciate the body that I have spent too long hating, wishing it was more like the models I dress daily. Now don’t worry, I’m not about to turn this into an InstaThot account cause I’m not that girl 😂 But I wore a fitted dress last night and im not apologising for it anymore 🖤
158 50721 hours ago
This week was straight worrrrrrk! The week didn’t go as I thought I had planned including going to the gym and posting a workout video for you guys,but it seems the universe had bigger plans for me than I expected in which it required me to step up my game even more. I love a new challenge and a chance to learn new and exciting things. Hope you cuties had an amazing week and remember not to be afraid to take on new opportunities💕✨
Esta semana fue trabajo directo! La semana no fue como pensé que había planeado, incluyendo ir al gimnasio y publicar un video para ustedes, pero parece que el universo tenía planes más grandes para mí de lo que esperaba en lo que me exigía que aumentara mi juego aún más. Me encanta un nuevo desafío y la oportunidad de aprender cosas nuevas y excitantes. Espero que ustedes hayan tenido una semana increíble y recuerden no tener miedo de aprovechar nuevas oportunidades💕✨
15 10212 hours ago
All these behaviors serve a purpose. We usually can’t “just stop” doing them until we’ve developed other skills to use or the core issue has been addressed/resolved.
I hear the struggle. The shame. The desperation. “I want to stop binging and purging.” “I just can’t throw out the scale.” I know it’s hard right now.
You will stop when you’re ready. When you have the skills and support. It’s probably not going to happen by magic, it’s probably not going to be easy, but neither is continuing to remain the same.
It’s ok to get support, even if you don’t think you have an eating disorder. If you’re looking to make peace with food and your body working with a HAES informed therapist and dietitian can help. You don’t have to do this alone.
24 81619 July, 2019
#transformationtuesday This is not the usual kind of post you’ll see with this hashtag. The picture on the left was taken in 2015, and the one on the right was taken 2 weeks ago. -
Let me tell you about the girl on the left. She had just finished doing a weight loss program for about 6 months, where she dropped over 30 pounds. She was MISERABLE on it. She was always hungry and hated how there were so many things she couldn’t have. She hated that every time she “cheated” she felt like she was punished because for 3-4 days she had to basically just have protein bars, shakes, and hard boiled eggs before she was allowed to eat real food again. And when she finished her first round of the program, she was upset she hadn’t lost more weight, and she didn’t think it looked like she had lost as much as she had. She was still very self conscious of how she looked, still had little self confidence, and still hated her body. She kept telling herself when she reached her goal weight (which was 125 lbs btw, INCREDIBLY unrealistic and unhealthy for her) then THATS when she would be confident and love her body. -
She went on a trip to Disneyworld shortly after where she was still supposed to be dieting, just eating slightly more of what she was allowed to. But she said fuck that because she wanted to actually enjoy her trip and not worry about food. She told herself she’d go back on it when she left. She tried for a bit, then quit because she still wasn’t happy, and was tired of having to say no to everything. So, she gained all the weight she’d lost back, and more, because what she didn’t know was that 97% of people who go on diets and lose weight have the exact same thing happen because it’s not sustainable. She also was wanting to lose weight for all the wrong reasons. Because she thought it would make her more confident, love her body, and date cute guys...cuz you know, attractive guys never want to be with a girl who’s fat 🙄 -
So let me now tell you about the girl on the right. She is MUCH happier, more confident, and loves herself WAY more than the other girl, even though she is probably about 50 pounds heavier than the one on the left....(continued in comments)
I know someone needs to hear this today.
Say it with me: I am more than my weight and what my body looks like. I am enough and I matter. No diet or weight defines me. I have value.
Diet culture and diet mentality creates fixation on food, our bodies, and reduces us to mind numbing conversations about pounds, inches, carbs, calories and abs. We’re here for so much more than that!
What if we could turn it around - what would we talk about? What if we talked about things that actually matter to us, could that vulnerability allow us to create the connection we’re wired for? Our relationships bring meaning to our lives but what if the whole purpose of our friendship is based on our shared self hatred? We deserve more.
I challenge you to change the subject the next time dieting, calories, or weight are brought up. Bonus points if you tell them you prefer not to talk about that stuff anymore - and maybe even why if you feel comfortable.
Topic idea: Diet Culture, what has it given us, what has it taken away? How can we reclaim our lives?
*Of course, these topics are important to discuss in therapy! In this context diet, weight change, body image is crucial to process.
26 1,18617 July, 2019
Pole dancing/fitness is something I’ve never imagined myself doing as a fat girl.
It goes against everything society has told me fat girls ARE NOT. We aren’t supposed to be strong or sexy or show too much skin..... but I broke al those “rules” today 🤷🏼♀️
Going into this class I was terrified it would set me back on my fat positive journey. I was worried that I would be overly conscious being the only fat person in the studio and that all those old insecurities and beliefs would creep back in.
From the moment I stepped into the studio to the moment I left I felt so freaking confident in my body. I had NO idea what I was doing but I pushed myself and I didn’t give up throughout the entire class.
I didn’t play the comparison game with anyone. I knew I was in a studio surrounded by super fit straight sized people and I just didn’t care.
I danced and jiggled and sweat my ass off. I didn’t restrict my eating beforehand to appear thinner. I didn’t wear tight underwear that would suck in my muffin top. I just existed and spent an hour and a half loving and worshiping my body as it is.
I’m so proud of myself for pushing through my nerves and going to class today. I have never felt more confident and in love with my body than I am right now.
If you’re struggling with body confidence I highly encourage you to put yourself out there and try something totally out of your comfort zone. It’s invigorating and kind of addicting 😂
AND WHO’S PROFITING OFF THIS??
In my Stories today I reposted “life lies”. Things you’ve been led to believe are true related to cultural beliefs, norms, and expectations - but aren’t.
•Weight = health + happiness
•Weight = beauty
•College is the best 4 years of your life.
•Pick a career and stay with it.
•You need to have your life and family figured out by 30.
What other things have you come to realize aren’t actually true?
How much suffering and distress are these beliefs and expectations creating? From my point a view... a lot.
25 69718 July, 2019
When I think about my life and how much time I spent investing on changing my body, I see so much time lost. I see so much energy, money, opportunities spent trying to change my outside to feel better on the inside.✨
I always believed that when my body reflected my hard work of dieting, I would feel more confident. I always believed that when body got smaller, confidence would follow. ✨
A smaller body always promised me something it couldn’t deliver on: self esteem. ✨
Find 2 pictures of yourself: one at your heaviest weight and one at your smallest. Ask yourself these questions:
✨Am I more valuable in one picture?
✨Am I more lovable in one picture?
✨Does one picture deserve more respect ?
✨Does one photo produce more shame?
✨Am I more more worthy in one picture?
Changing your body is like changing from a cup to a tumbler. Maybe you are a smaller size. Maybe you are bigger. Regardless you still hold the same thing inside: you.
No matter what size you are, you are valuable, lovable, and worthy of respect.✨
💫If this resonates with you - only 3️⃣ days left to sign up for the IE & Body Image workshop with @theintuitive_rd • $99 • link in bio ✨ repost by @empoweredeatingrd 💫
One of the hardest things I see in my work is loving and well-meaning mums inadvertently passing on messages of diet culture on to their daughters.⠀
My mate @nude_nutritionist has a powerful message about how we can begin to stop the cycle (full caption below):⠀
"For generations, we've been passing down disordered eating and body hate from generation to generation. She (your mother) was probably judged on her weight (instead of her merit) and yelled at (by her mother) for eating too much. She thinks she's looking after you (even though it's doing more harm than good).⠀
You are not a reflection of your mother (or mother-in-laws!) opinion about your body and eating habits. Even as the child, you can become the teacher. You can change how the conversation continues, and what you pass on can help change the future. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You can put an end to judgemental comments (I give specific ideas on how to do this in my book, The Nude Nutritionist). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Let's not pass down disordered eating and body hate to the next generation. #itendswithus "⠀
⠀ #nodiets#bodyimage#bodyconfidence#eatingdisorders#edrecovery#selfacceptance#parenting#motherdaughter#weight#intuitiveeating#dietculture#youareworthy ⠀
44 61117 July, 2019
It’s weeeeeeeekend!! ❤️ I lost 6lbs this week so let’s enjoy a cheat day!!
21 22913 July, 2019
As a recovering perfectionist, I have a hard time embracing the messier sides of me.
I saw these photos and almost didn’t share them cuz they’re not “perfect” enough / aka my belly hangs out in the second one, my nips are sticking out, my new tattoo isn’t healed yet, etc.
But I’ve been learning to love the “messy” side of me.
The one that gets dirty going up hills, but sits happily on the dirt, admiring the view ✨
The one that lets a friend tattoo a cactus on me, so he can practice his skill and so I can remember this place forever 🌵
The one that forgets to wear a bra for the 5th month in a row 🤷🏽♀️
The one that lets my belly hang out, cuz what the hell is the point of sucking in my belly if there’s no one but my husband around? 🤔
It’s taken a while for me to embrace this side of me. I fought it for so long.
But I think this is why i’ve grown to love this stage of my life so much. Because it’s messy. Because it’s unplanned and it goes against what I grew up believing i’d “be”. Take my tattoo, for example. Most of my tattoos are quite delicate, like my avocado tattoo I got recently 🥑 Full of detail and planning and thought.
And then this newer tattoo was totally spontaneous, with wobbly lines and a rustic feel to it.
I’ve never been too delicate, nor too rustic. But I’m blending the line of who I am. I can be delicate & perfectionist at times, but I can also get down on the ground, eat with my hands and get reeeeal messy.
So I encourage you to share your messier sides with others. That picture in which you might think your face or body looks weird? SHARE IT! That video where your dance moves are happy and sloppy? SHARE IT! Our lives are not meant to be perfect, they’re meant to be REAL. So here’s to living an imperfectly messy life 🤗
Clothes that don’t fit
Accounts promoting diet culture
Does something come up for you?
What holds you back from letting it go?
What would you have to give up?
Try it out, call it an experiment. It doesn’t have to be forever. Notice what data you collect as you live without this item. What’s different?
Of course we can’t wrap ourselves up in bubble wrap, avoid pain, uncomfortable emotions or things that bother us. We also need to learn distress tolerance skills but reducing unnecessary exposure can be an act of self care.
You will probably have nasty thoughts about yourself, your loved one, and that stranger in the grocery store.
You will probably make judgements about food, bodies, health, and weight again no matter how hard you’re trying to unlearn it.
You can’t control all your thoughts. This makes you human, not a monster. You learned them from someone/somewhere and we can’t just control+alt+delete this stuff. You’re doing your best.
It’s unrealistic to believe you’re going to be all rainbows and sunshine from here on out. That you’ll never scrutinize your body or wish it looked different. We might not ever 100% get rid of these thoughts. Be kind, understanding, and compassionate.
-Don’t take all your thoughts seriously.
-They are thoughts, not facts.
-You aren’t responsible for your first thought.
-You are responsible for how you respond.
-What would be a more helpful thought?
-What thought would help you get closer to a life you want to lead?
12 57416 July, 2019
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56 90310 July, 2019
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