Right now, my kids are on an exciting adventure with their dad. And it’s good for them, they were thrilled to get on an airplane and visit their grandparents. But when they first left, I burst into tears. It’s hard to say goodbye to my kids for 5 days when I’m in the middle of a divorce. It’s sad. It’s a first. And a lot of the “firsts” I’ve experienced this year are hard: Easter, Mother’s Day, birthday parties....they’re very different when I’m a family of 3 instead of a family of 4. .
But this past week I was lucky enough to spend every day with my cousins, their kids, and my aunts and uncles. We cooked meals together, we took bike rides together, and we did bedtime baths and storytime together. It reminded me that family is not just a spouse and children, it is so much more! .
Family also extends to friends, and I have two of the best girlfriends 👯 who have dropped everything to come visit me multiple times this year, listen to me cry, remind me of who I am, and support me through this messy time. I’m blessed to have all of these wonderful people in my life, this extended family that encourages and supports me, and loves and supports my children. My little family of 3 is starting to bloom like a garden in the spring, and it’s truly because of all the nourishment my family and friends have provided us! 😊
Bikini @jcrewfactory *unfortunately, this swimsuit had a MAJOR flaw with the back hook, so I had to have the tailor pull it off and sew the ends together. Annoying, but problem solved! 👏
My parents got divorced and I was giving my o level exams
As you might expect, research has found that kids struggle the most during the first year or two after the divorce.2 Kids are likely to experience distress, anger, anxiety, and disbelief. But many kids seem to bounce back. They get used to changes in their daily routines and they grow comfortable with their living arrangements.
Others, however, never really seem to go back to “normal.” This small percentage of children may experience ongoing—possibly even lifelong—problems after their parents’ #divorce
🔹Do you feel like you are always saying yes to everything? While it is important to say yes to life after a divorce, be careful that you are not spreading yourself too thin by saying yes to everything!
🔹During this time of transition, you may feel like you have to always say yes because your path is not clear. and you don't want to miss out on your next best move. Don't feel that way.
🔹Make sure that you take time for yourself and figure out where you are going. Then, only say yes to things that will help you down the road on the way to your post-divorce life.
Learning to practice self care requires a shift in mindset for a lot of us. We have to let go of the guilt and learned behaviors.
- Learn how to create time daily for self care
- Optimize your self care habits in times of transition to facilitate emotional healing
- Identify your unique routines and needs to aid in trauma recovery
these are just a few of the topics in my 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐏𝐚𝐭𝐡:𝐅𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 4 week group course. This course is specifically designed for christian women coping with the fall out of discovering their partner's affair.
The next group is starting soon.
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There is a saying that when a woman is fed up... She is fed up! Such a true statement. But it goes both ways with men AND women. With that being said... In relationships... Make sure that what you do counts until it doesn't.... Meaning dont expect it to go beyond what you see. That's when you have control over your emotional state when it doesn't. Plan for tomorrow but dont live in tomorrow. Live for today... Because it only counts until it doesn't!
No background, no professional lighting, just talk. If you are starting over after a divorce or a long term relationship, you are in the toughest place ever! Your mind is all over the place and if you aren’t careful, it can break you down. You HAVE to surround yourself with as much positivity as possible. Get around solution based people that have been where you are and not only are winning themselves, but can show you how to win. Get help that’ll take you beyond crying & venting, to helping you actively take control of your life. The tears aren’t a problem, but during this process, you gotta work while you’re crying. You CAN do this and come out a stronger, healthier woman with a life that you are in LOVE with!.
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I stepped out on the porch, after midnight— I was home alone- my bare feet felt the cold slate, dampened by the rain.
I was sitting there, watching the ember of a cigarette glow and burn as my tears fell in my lap- I told myself, “you’re going to remember this moment” and I do- still today. That night was the night I decided my marriage was over. I felt my life playing out, like a confusing screen play- each scene seemingly more disconnected from one to the next. I was trying to connect the dots. But right then, at that moment, in my mind I had failed. I had failed at the one thing society shames you for failing at.
Nobody talks about divorce in the midst of it. Nobody talks about it, because of the societal pressures and judgements built around it. So, I too, remained quiet. I went over the logistics hundreds of times. In my mind, I would gather up all the things and people I knew I would lose, in an attempt to hold them close, for a bit longer.
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DIVORCE: SHAME, SELF LOVE, LOSS AND WHAT COMES AFTER.
Ongeveer 7 jaar geleden zijn mijn ouders gescheiden.
Als klein meisje voelde ik mij zo ongelukkig als ik mijn ouders zag ruzie maken.
Maar ik zal altijd mijn gezinnetje missen...
Als kind, kijk je op naar jouw ouders. Zij zijn diegene die het voorbeeld aan jou moeten laten zien, die jou leren over het leven, goed en kwaad en waaraan je raad kan vragen of met je problemen bij terecht kan. Ons steunend pilaar.
Met deze post wil ik iedereen toch ook echt laten inzien hoe hartverscheurend zoiets kan zijn, zeker als klein kind, en hoe dankbaar je moet zijn dat je ouders nog altijd samen zijn.
Had je gescheiden ouders, één van de ouders die weg is gegaan of één van de ouders nooit meer ziet of nooit hebt gekend... Dat zal altijd moeilijk zijn in iemands leven en kan gezien worden als een traumatische ervaring.
Deze quote past er perfect bij vanuit mijn perspectief. Ik was blij met mijn gezin en alles leek perfect, tot de ruzies voor één ouder of beide ouders te veel wordt.
Ik droom ervan om een eigen, gelukkig gezinnetje te hebben. Klinkt cliché, maar velen vinden het leuk om dubbele cadeaus te krijgen. Is dat leuk? Ja... Maar is dat dan even leuk zoals een cadeau krijgen van beide ouders? In een gelukkig gezin? Voor jou kan het zijn van wel, voor een anders misschien niet. En daarin moeten we elkaar ook steunen. Niet iedereen zijn of haar gezinssituatie is hetzelfde en daarin moeten we elkaar respecteren.
Voor velen wordt ‘gescheiden ouders’ gezien als een verlieservaring en komt er een ‘rouwproces’. En voor ons is het dan echt belangrijk dat we de voldoende ruimte krijgen om van onze beide ouders te blijven houden.
Dus is het verschrikkelijk als beide ouders kritisch over elkaar spreken tegen ons. Wat moeten we daarop reageren? We zien ze beiden zo graag en we willen ze niet kwetsen...
Het is belangrijk dat je erover praat met elkaar, vertellen hoe je je voelt. Laat je geen dingen “wijsmaken” en doe waar je je goed bij voelt!
𝗪𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐃𝐎 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐃𝐎 𝐅𝐎𝐑 𝐘𝐎𝐔?
I will say this, Newfoundland restores some of my passion for photography. No brides, no family sessions, no pressure, just my phone and interesting pieces.
With all the stress of blended families, don’t forget to do what makes you shut off, I enjoyed taking everyone of these pictures... and I have to say, maybe it’s time to blow the dust off the old camera and get back into this.
Ok. Let’s have a #realmoment here. I’m 37 years old. I had a baby at 17. #teenmom put myself through college. Have a successful career. Had many struggles including my #weight Last year I went through a pretty hard #divorce and now I’ve been #single the longest in my life. I’ve moved away from all my family and almost all my friends. Despite being single and the #curviest I have been I’m finding out that I’m actually the happiest I’ve ever been in this moment, with myself, my life and my kids. #blessed#lovingmylife
Some ideas to stop thinking about your ex all the time. If you can’t forget about them and they are at the top of your mind at all times, here’s what we need to do. Watch 👆🏻 and let me know what’s worked for you ✌🏻
La compañía de ropa, Giordani, dio la orden, el día 23 de agosto, de quitar las fotos de la sesión fotográfica de otoño/invierno, en las que salía Ahn JaeHyun. Actualmente, las fotos de JaeHyun no se encuentran en las redes sociales de la compañía; tampoco están en la página web de la misma.
Según lo informado, una fuente dentro de Giordani fue quien dio la orden de eliminar todas las imágenes de Ahn JaeHyun en sus negocios, a las tiendas, quienes cumplieron con el contenido enviado.
Un día antes, el 22 de agosto, la marca de cosméticos para bodas, MERBLISS, reveló que eliminaría todos sus anuncios con Ahn JaeHyun, y compartió que no se le pediría una indemnización por daños y prejuicios.
Estos problemas con las compañías, se deben a la aparición de Ahn JaeHyun y Ku HyeSun en todos los titulares, ya que desde el 18 de agosto han hecho declaraciones contradictorias respecto al tema de su divorcio, además del contenido acerca de sus problemas matrimoniales.
🌿Take time this morning to check in with yourself.
. 🌿Take time to connect with your breath.
. 🌿Take time to notice your heart.
. 🌿Take time to be fully present to this moment.
. 🌿Take time to acknowledge the wild that lives inside of you.
. 🌿Take time to sit in the quiet and swim in the silence.
. 🌿Take time to reflect on your week* (*or whatever comes up and feels good to you).
. 🌿Take time to ask yourself, “What do I need to know and be aware of in this moment?”
. 🌿Take time to tend to yourself with curiosity, “What would feel deliciously decadent to me right now?”
. 🌿And then, take the time to do that...
I’ve “lost” a million dollar home, a career, a husband or two, and so called friends & fair weathered family. 🌟Once I learned to how to stop self sabotaging when things did not go as planned, I received so much more than what I had “lost”. 🌟It took looking at my own role in all of those “losses”, forgiving myself for mistakes I made, and learning to love myself unconditionally. 🌟Now I am free to be me and that is all that matters, because I know I am more than enough. 🌟If you find yourself feeling lost as a result of divorce, remember two things: 1. “this too shall pass “ 2. “We repeat what we don’t repair.” 🌟Divorce brings an opportunity to restore our souls, lighten our loads, and reveal our true self. 🌟Divorce can set you free.💛
All of your peace. All of your joy. All of the strength you walk in. All of your courage. All of your inheritance in God and the living wisdom of walking in the Spirit revolve around your intimate communion with Her.
Knowing your place and being in it depends on your involvement with Her. Knowing Her love for you is your healing and comfort. Knowing Her voice means you will never feel adrift in the world. Knowing Her hand protects and provides gives you peace most people don't understand.
The third horseman of divorce/separation I want to talk about is criticism. Criticism is when we verbally attack our partners character or personality. When we imply our partners character is flawed they are more likely to become threatened and respond with defense.
Examples of criticism can can begin with, “you always...”, or “you never...” (which can immediately spark a defensive response.) If you tell your partner, “you’re always late coming home from work,” it can imply that your partner doesn’t care about you, and most likely leave your partner feeling defensive and in the wrong.
Criticism often comes from frustration and an attempt to convey a need. Gottman research shows that 96% of the time discussions invariably end on the same note they begin (i.e., if you start a discussion with anger and criticism it will most likely end the same way).
Comment with questions and stay tuned for the antidote in the next post!
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