Can you tell we are excited to share this week's stories??
While our stories often include humor and insight, they are also documenting the very dark journey we went through in a nearly 2 year long custody battle.
We are speaking out about the process that we went through both as mom and step-mom, and facing the ominous side of our Justice system.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ -Stay tuned! *Friday*
1 14 minutes ago
Today is my 39th Birthday and The Husband is in Canada fishing with my dad. So... I went out for Mexican food and margaritas with his ex-wife. Yep. You read that right. And this is why we created this page, we’re gonna talk co-parenting and step parenting and blending a family. We’re gonna talk about the good and the bad, what works and what doesn’t and hopefully have a little fun along the way! #blendedfamily#blendedfamilylife#exwife#stepmom#coparentinggoals#coparenting#coparentingdoneright
0 129 minutes ago
LET IT BE > LET IT GO
2 281 hour ago
Hating isn't healing.
Neither is dating.
Give yourself some time to recover. Take time to (re)discover yourself. Enjoy your soulitude. Take care of yourself.
🙋🏼♀️🙋🏻♂️ one-time for drama queens and drama kings
6 16419 August, 2019
This is by far one of the biggest challenges with effective communication. We can get so wrapped in what we want to say and how we want to respond, which results in poor listening and hence, poor understanding. Listen to learn. Be curious. Wait until it’s your turn. Then when you do speak, it’ll be that much more powerful.
1 3819 August, 2019
Woo hoo! It’s Monday and that means a new episode of Thriving After Divorce Radio podcast is up and running! 👉🏼go to tanyadube.com/podcast (LINK IN BIO) to listen to today’s awesome episode.
How many times have you started on your meditation path and then walked away because you couldn't wrap your head around it? I know that for myself, this has been a struggle, but what always works for me is the fundamentals - WHY am I doing this? What benefit will it actually bring me? What can I expect to see long term? I know that if you're further ahead than I am you will still find value in this episode because @julierosenbergmd is such a yogi at heart (and also professionally).*
In the context of divorce, in this episode Julie and I discuss all the ways in which even small amounts of stress can impact our lives long term, why you should pay attention, and how you can reduce any risk for depression, anxiety disorders and heart disease because of the state of high alert you're currently feeling as you go through your divorce or separation. She has given me so many things to think about and you'll want to start adding meditation to your life after you hear what she has to say. She's also an advanced certified yoga instructor and teaches us a little about yoga (you can find out more to do with the 8 limbs of yoga, meditation and even more training about mindfulness in her book Beyond the Mat) and why it's important to bring those principles into your every day life.*
💋 GO TO tanyadube.com/podcast (LINK IN BIO) to listen to today's episode. Don't forget to REVIEW!, subscribe, like, comment, and share! xo
3 719 August, 2019
What an awesome weekend, from winning Open pro and 30+, to hanging with the fam at my sons (3rd) birthday party of the year. Blessed to have the life i do.
It feels good to let go. It feels good to not need to control, to choose my feelings and not be led by my ego or my fears. It feels good to feel good. ♥️ *
I often wondered if I would ever want to be in love again. I wondered if I would be able to give myself over to being in romantic love, to feeling love, to being able to give love without the need for anything in return. I didn’t know if it was possible, but I knew that I didn’t need to stew about it, or wish for it or victimize myself because I hadn’t ever had it. I knew that I needed to learn who I was, what I was made of and how far I was willing to go to fight for me. I’m arriving and it’s a slow process but I’m getting there and allowing myself the time I need to get there. This has been an especially painful journey, and not because my marriage didn’t work...it was because of all the stuff that needed dealing with from my past that I couldn’t (for whatever reason) deal with before all of this. The pain from your past rises to the surface when you go through something hard, so give yourself time to deal with it all and just accept, hold yourself close and release what’s holding you back. 🌷
Movie Night @ the Millet casa. School starts on Monday. I asked the kids what they hoped to accomplish during this school year. Austin said he'd like to learn division. Brenda hopes to convince her mom to let her shave her legs. 😂😂
That's our girl! Lol... I survived my 2nd Summer as an insta-family step mom! These 2 are great kids! Recently someone told me i should use the term "bonus" instead of "step". I hate the titles of bonus kids or bonus mom. For me, it's just not my thing. Plus let's get rid of that stepmother stigma. Some of us are pretty awesome & have great relationships with our stepkids. Being a stepmom is all about taking steps. Sometimes they’re big and sometimes they’re small. As stepmom, I have to always be mindful of my role and the dynamic of our family. I read that in all blended or non blended families the most difficult role is undoubtedly the stepmom role. Over the last 2 years I’ve learned when it’s best to step up and when I should step back. It's a tricky balance. So pulease don't call me bonus mom or refer to them as my bonus kids. I may throat punch you. Those terms just make me cringe. But in the end I just refer to them as the kids & really that's all that matters.
Poysen: that's sweet but I don't think it will be a good idea. Smooth: Poysen Baby why are You saying this what wrong have I done to You? Please don't take this out on Me Don't do this to Us let Me make it right. Poysen: I'm sorry I can't. Smooth: why not You still Love Me right? Poysen: this is just all too much for Me in so little time. We came here so that Our Parent's could spend time with Us. Not for the Beverly Hill hoodbillies to come and destroy everything We had planned. Smooth: I know You are upset I get that but You have to understand I didn't invite them Baby. I had nothing to do with this My Aunt Odessa mean well but this is pure messiness. Listen Baby I Love You I'm crazy over You I have been this way since the day I set Eye's on You. You have been all I think about day and night. Yvonne is and always will be old history I Love You only. Poysen: yes of course I Love You with all that's in Me. I can't accept this ticket I just want to go home and think to myself. Smooth: No No Baby... Poysen: I'm going to go pack My stuff now. Smooth: You're Really serious huh WOW! Poysen don't leave Me like this. #familyiseverything#Reallifedolldrama#islovereal#SmoothandPoysen#messy#stayinyourlane#gossip#checkmate#in -laws #money#vacationhouse#exwife#confused#heartbroken#notmyhusband#marriedwithissues#marriageiseverything#icantdothis#whydidigetmarried#heartbroken#Baecation#thebreakup
Smooth: I pulled You in here away from all that craziness I needed a few minutes with You alone. I know this has been one crazy ass weekend for You I just want to make it right. Poysen: I didn't think any of this was a good idea anymore once I seen Yvonne. Smooth: what do You mean this was Your idea. Poysen: Yes to meet Our Parents not Your crazy ass wife! Smooth: Ex-wife. Poysen: oh oh whatever She is, Her Husband which happens to be Your first Cousin, Lucky being's Hope whom happens to work for Me not to mention Lucky has been extremely disrespectful towards Me ever since He found out about Us. Smooth: Baby that's why I have to make this right I have something for You. Poysen: Smooth not now okay. Smooth: No seriously in the flowers are tickets for Us a Baecation a week away from it all just You and I. Poysen: don't You think We have had enough Getaway activities for a while? Smooth: I promise You No one will mess this up for Us. #familyiseverything#Reallifedolldrama#islovereal#SmoothandPoysen#messy#stayinyourlane#gossip#checkmate#in -laws #money#vacationhouse#exwife#confused#heartbroken#notmyhusband#marriedwithissues
4 5415 August, 2019
Speaking your truth can be terrifying, but everyone has a voice and should be heard...even through a soft whisper. 🗣
Hi, I am @themichelledempsey and I am an ex-wife.
In three days I’ll be a new wife.
I am old friend.
I am new friend, too.
Every time someone tries to pull you into their quicksand pile of unhappiness, remember how hard you fucking fought to pull yourself out of it. There’s no place for you there anymore.
I have to remind myself of this just as much as anyone else, but each time I do, I am also inclined to pass the message on. Remember your strength, you amazing superhuman babe. Remember it every time you start feeling the pull.
And make sure to follow me and join my new friend pile! ❤️