I linger and replay “the past”, like a broken record. Imagining alternative outcomes for the most painful endings. Wishing I could undue the way I responded to situations. Avoiding responsibility for what IS. 🌿
I anxiously envision “the future”. Constantly longing and reaching for what feels unattainable. Frustrated with how far my arrival seems. Annoyed with how unfair time feels some days. 🌿
So exhausting. And such a cheap way of living. Leaves nothing but frustration, half-hearted interactions and heaviness. 🌿 “The past” already left, with all its baggage, failures, adventures and glory. “The future” comes whether we want it or not. So receive the gift of this present moment. Receive today’s grace. Receive your “daily bread”. 🌿 📷 @itsmariajuliahh
3 123 hours ago
What you feed, will grow and what you don't feed, will eventually die! ✨✨ Stop feeding fear, doubt, negativity, insecurities, past hurts and betrayal. ✨✨ Reliving and holding onto your past hurt is like re-opening a wound over and over and it will never HEAL. ✨✨ Some of us, the reason we seem stuck and unable to reach our goals and dreams is because we are still holding to the past - things that no longer serve us. ✨✨ You gotta let it GO, stop feeding past hurts, stop feeding fear, stop feeding resentment. Quit thinking about who hurt you, about your insecurities. Starve that S**t out of your life. ✨✨ Start feeding your FAITH, your DREAMS, your GOALS, and your CONFIDENCE. ✨✨
What do you need to starve out of your life?
Great reminder for your Monday!
If I was to constantly remember the things that I did whilst in my active alcoholism, I’d end up drinking again!
I cringe if I’m ever reminded, because sober, I wouldn’t even think of doing some of the things that I did whilst drunk!
I can only describe being intoxicated as being possessed.
Like a dark cloud had washed over me and taken over.
Nowadays In sobriety, I’m surrounded by light.
I stay very close to my higher power, and look at each situation good or bad as a chance to grow and learn.
We can’t go back, we can only move forward.
So today remember, live in the moment, take one day at a time and leave the past in the past.
You are no longer there and you have the opportunity to paint a blank canvas in sobriety with an open heart, open mind & eyes wide open.
Love and light to you all!
I can’t even begin to explain to you how accurate this is. If your hands (head or heart) are full with something old, you won’t be able to “pick up” something new. Leave the past where it is. I have to remind myself to live in the present and enjoy every moment of happiness and new experiences that I possibly can. Tomorrow is promised to no one. ✌🏼💖 BRB, I’m living. 😘
Biggest thing to always remember ... the past is the past. Learn from it but don’t let it stop you from looking and moving forward!!! Happy Saturday, friends!!!
1 2220 July, 2019
I got an opportunity that I have been waiting for handed right into my lap and I wanted to just run away.
I am pretty confident about my abilities to deliver to high standards at my job but in that moment sitting in his office, I felt like I was standing at the edge of the deep end of the pool, with no life jacket, someone was about to push me in and I had no idea how to swim.
That is what it feels like to step out of your comfort zone into the zone where magic and growth happens.
What do you do when you get an awesome opportunity that you have prayed for but when it comes it leaves you feeling like you are out of your depth?
Here is what I am doing:
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Your inner voice.
She's so fucking sad!
She's been told her whole life she's great... aaaannnnd yet not enough.
She has so many dreams but the glass ceilings are taunting with their views and lack of reach..you know... for a girl like her.
She runs wild through the wants , barefoot and she's condemned.
She walks in glass slippers and lace sleeves through expectations...still condemned.
Not ( insert condemning self talk here)! Tell her you're sorry. Yes. Apologize. Tell her you're going to choose 1 thing tomorrow to be happy. To feel accomplished.
Tell her it's ok to not be okay but it's a choice. Don't let them do this anymore.
Them! All the inner voices.
The one that's sad because she hasn't found the one .
The one that's angry about her Dad abandoning her.
The one that's hiding behind shame and guilt for things she didn't even do.
They are only here because you are reminiscing instead of reviving. You are blaming instead of reframing. You are avoiding instead of destroying. Destroying the prison they built, the lies they tell. Burn it babe! Burn it all. Create a freaking inferno of self love!
When you have big, crazy, “unrealistic” dreams…. you’re going to trigger people.
When you set massive, epic, mind blowing goals like the leader you know you’re here to be…
You’re going to ruffle some feathers.
And when you achieve those goals… then set new ones, then achieve them again…
You’re going to upset some people.
And really, YOU aren’t doing anything to them.
By being great, you show others what’s possible,
By thriving, sharing your journey, your process, your success, you inspire and expand.
And, your reality rubs against the limiting beliefs, triggers and wounds of everyone who’s watching.
A leader’s job is not to make everyone comfortable.
Your job is to lead. To go first - even when it’s scary. Even when you can’t see beyond the next step.
A leaders job is to take the first step, then light the way for those who are ready.
^ read that again. Light the way FOR THOSE WHO ARE READY.
Leaders are not saviors. You are not martyrs. You are not people pleasers.
When you have big dreams, you are likely going to get some feedback from friends, family, lovers, neighbors, baristas and strangers on the street.
About how it’s not realistic to make $8,000 in a month. Or you can’t make a six figure income until you’ve domed, y or z.
Or how you couldn’t possibly start an online business based on your innate skills, gifts and life experiences… I mean, how ridiculous is that. 🙄🙃🙄
But remember this: those doubts have nothing to do with you.
The only reason they sting is because they land on a fear you already have.
A fear that maybe you are crazy to think you could do it.
Heads up: you’re not. You can. It’s possible.
Hold your vision. Hold it close. Share it with those you trust. Release the judgement, questions from those who don’t see or believe in your visions.
And keep going.
Happy Friday, friends.
I gave up a life of wealth, and of gifts, and expensive vacations - for a life of debt. I gave up my entire wedding paid for - to live a life of truth.
I gave up a family of money and financial support, for a family of emotional support and the experience of knowing what real love should feel like.
With it all, I have given up the lies, hiding, and the secrets. While some parts of my life have become more difficult, many are SO much more beautiful.
I would give it all up over and over again, because - I am FREE.
Walk away from ANYTHING that is holding you back from living your truth. In the end, nothing tangible - is worth your Spirit.
Are the wounds of the past still governing you?
When we can’t let go of the past, the mistrust, and the pain, it can really hurt our future. Suffering is not holding you but that you are holding on to the suffering. When you become good at the art of letting sufferings go, then you’ll come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you and you’ll see that no one else other than YOU was responsible.
Never let the past spoil your present or govern your future. Bless the past and loving let it go ✨💛 #LeaveThePastBehind#YesterdayIsGone#LetitGo#BeGrateful#TransformationalEmpowermentLifeCoach#LeadsToSelfEmpowerment
That moment when you think it's a sign to contact your ex after watching a love tarot reading suggesting that you'll be getting back with a person from your past.... No noooooo 🤣😭🦔🐷🤤 lol bad mistake. That message wasn't for you! 🚫GUILTY totally!
Never mind if there is joy in the bittersweet. Never mind keeping the best and forgetting the rest. There is only now, not even tomorrow. Relish. Create. Put the memory book down. Write the next chapter; let it be wholly new.
2 1018 July, 2019
I used to think I had a super power. I’m an emotional chameleon! I can fit in and blend into almost any situation, scenario or event. What I didn’t realize, is that I didn’t honour my own needs a lot, or at all, when I was trying to fit in, in order to feel safe and accepted. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I was so good at embodying whatever aspect of myself I felt was the most acceptable to the person that I was trying to bond with, be close to, or impress. In some cases, this meant giving up my safety and self worth completely. 👎🏻⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I overextended myself and I said yes to everyone and everything because I was so eager to make those I cared about happy and comfortable. In doing this, I totally dismissed my own needs and desires. Before I knew it, I was so tired, depressed and deeply resentful of those “taking advantage of me”. Now it is clear that I was letting them... And it was all because of a trauma response, and a deep need for acceptance- at any cost. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To avoid conflict, negative emotions, and re-traumatization, I would go out of my way to agree with someone’s opinions and ideas and appease them in order to deescalate situations or potential issues. Often times, the more invested I was in an emotional connection, the less likely I was to criticize that person, vocalize boundaries or express unhappiness with their behaviour or treatment of me. In fact, I was unlikely to share anything that could upset the other person, or damage the relationship in any way. I lost myself, to find acceptance with others. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If you feel that this is your trauma pattern, let’s connect. It’s easier to dismantle than you think. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It isn't always a change of scenery needed to make life better. Sometimes it simply requires opening your eyes. That last page turned is a perfect excuse to write a whole new book. There are some things one can only achieve by a deliberate leap in the opposite direction.
How was your weekend? How was last week? Did you over-treat yourself? Did you skip your workouts, not drink enough water, stay up too late, not have any time to meal prep, forget to go grocery shopping, or more than one of these things? So what? Tomorrow is a new day. Wipe that slate clean. Start your week fresh, and reset your mindset. If you think you screwed up, ignore it. Yes, I said that. Own it, understand it, plan to handle it better in the future, and act like it never even happened. Just keep going forward, and leave it behind. It's done. It's over. Don't drag it out any further. You deserve better, not to carry that burden around. Now get it! 💙
|❓| 𝘈𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘯𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶?
💧Unhappy relationship? Toxic friendships? Old jobs? Bad habit? What do you need to let go of right now?
😓 Letting go can be extremely hard, the memories, the familiarity, the comfort, the pain; it's hard to just forget about all of them and start fresh again. In a way, it's like giving up on a part of ourselves, one that, in the past, served a purpose in our life.
💦 However, ultimately, it hurts not being able to let go and move on, not to mention that it holds you back from healing, growing and appreciating the present moment.
🐍 Just like a snake shedding its old skin to allow for continued growth and to remove parasites that may have attached to its old skin, 👉🏻we have to leave behind what's no longer serve us to open up more space and room for new and better things to come along.✨
|⁉️| But how can we do it?
👉🏻 𝚂𝚝𝚎𝚙 𝟷. 𝙰𝚕𝚕𝚘𝚠 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚝𝚘 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚕
Be patient, compassionate and kind to yourself. Don't judge yourself when you feel sad, lost, confused or overwhelmed 🙊. Feel the emotion until it no longer demand your attention.
👉🏻 𝚂𝚝𝚎𝚙 𝟸. 𝙰𝚌𝚌𝚎𝚙𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚑𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚍
Accept that sometimes things don't go as you expect, and that's okay. Accept the issue for what it is and the fact that you cannot change the past. Remind yourself that "everything happens for a (great) reason." Have faith. ☀️
👉🏻 𝚂𝚝𝚎𝚙 𝟹. 𝙲𝙷𝙾𝙾𝚂𝙴 𝚝𝚘 𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚐𝚒𝚟𝚎
Everything in life is a choice. We can choose to wallow and dwell on the past and the things we can not change 🥀, or we can take back our power and choose to forgive ourselves and the persons that may have wronged us. :)
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41 59919 March, 2019
From the frying pan into the fire, it’s safe to say that today’s Woman of Impact, Co-founder and Director of multi-million-dollar, multi-award-winning UK real-estate agency, @anneke72, has felt the burn. Desperate to escape an abusive upbringing, she jumped into a marriage that eventually saw her in front of a judge, wrongly accused, fighting for her freedom. But like Andy Dufresne in Shawshank, she wasn’t about to let a pile of crap get in her way. In this week’s episode, learn how to endure the worst, appreciate the best, and let go of the past that made you who you are today. Episode out NOW! Podcast & Youtube links in bio.
27 54215 May, 2019
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