Мне нравится это слово гештальт, особенно своим значением: целостность, воспринимаемая как сумма частей.
Париж, пока, для меня незакрытый гештальт. Это не вызывает чувство неудовлетворенности: постенно соединяя разрозненное, я создаю свой целостный, другой Париж. #paris#gestalt#parts#perception
Is your perception reality. Or do you need to flip it on it’s head, and see things from another point of view?
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Where you sit in a car, bus, train or plane doesn’t affect your final destination.
This quote of the day I have for you is one I wished I had included in my book, G.O.L.D Digger but I am sure it will make it into G.O.L.D Digger Volume 2.
I wrote this quote after a coaching session with a client and I was reflecting about life and how everyone reacts differently when they experience the same circumstances.
Developing the right attitude will serve us well to be able to turn adversities into opportunities and tough times into triumphs.
Silver spoon, golden spoon, no spoon, it doesn’t matter. Start from where you and use what you have to get to where you are going.
I have a first class mindset and I love the finer things of life. When I showed my children where people with First Class tickets get to sit on Emirates Airlines, I told them that their seats may be nicer than ours but we are all going to get to the same destination at the same time. So where you sit is not always the most important thing.
It is all about using what you have to get to where you are going. We all got to the same destination using what ever has and we all made it to the end. That is life.
How to respond peacefully like the Dalai Lama
even if you are angry, frustrated or stressed
🙏 “Today I read your last email, and it made
me look at things all day long, about the
stories and beliefs that lead to reaction… ...Because I had a very frustrating day, and
after all the work on my show, more frustration
and work are waiting for me at home... I need a lesson about responding!” (The original message is in the photo-
have you ever seen Hebrew writing?) 🔥
The easiest and most effective way to
respond/react to situations better is to kill
the problem when it’s small, i.e. -
Deal with your belief system in general,
and with your belief about any specific
event that triggers you as well.
You need to investigate the reason for
your unhappiness (step 3 in the B-AIR process)
and drop your resistance (statements 2-5 in step 4). 👌
If you didn’t wash the dishes, that could trigger my belief that you never do the dishes or
that you don’t do enough housework.
This can trigger the perception that it's
not fair, leading to feelings of frustration,
reacting from anger, and then... You know how it goes.
We've all been there.
(If you haven't, you're not human
and I want to interview you...) 👽
But using the B-AIR system?
I can respond to my frustrated mind.And instead of reacting automatically with anger... I'll be able to respond to the situation with a wise, open mind rather than a triggered, frustrated one.
There is so much more I could and should
write about it here, nut there's only so much I can do in a post... That is why I created The Ultimate Guide
to the B-AIR(™) system (and made it FREE
for you to download!) (🔗 Link in Bio)
- over there I dive really deep into it all. 🎁
The bottom line is this:
That process can control you,
or you can control it.
That's the choice you have.
If you want to react better to life, to
people and to the stories in your
mind, do your inner work. ❤
• To create effective and positive experiences and to have more successful communications, you can use patterns. Besides the AS IF pattern (see previous post) there are a number of other patterns which can create change in your attitude and behavior.
Let’s talk about the Visual Squash pattern. Its purpose is to develop a new way of thinking about a problem. This is a kind of battle between your own angels and devils. 😂
This pattern allows you to create a compromise between your opposing ideas. E.g. you want to attend a friend’s birthday party but you also need to finish an important/urgent piece of work.
By assigning a role of an angel and a devil to each situation imagine that each visual image is in one of your hands.
Next, think about the pros and cons of each situation and find sth rewarding in each of them. In this case the angel may decide it is OK to attend the party shortly because it would make your friend happy and the devil may compromise with working on the project because it will bring a long-term reward in the form of promotion.
The idea of reward turns the 💡 on for each side and helps them find agreement. After the compromise is reached, you should bring both hands together to merge both images.
This visual compromise puts your subconscious mind at peace and helps you quiet the fighting sides in your head.
All about perception and the best “pose” right? .
Well don’t let photos deceive you. Everybody wants to look their best. I get it. So do I. But what is looking your best if you don’t feel your best? Absolutely nothing.
Your appearance is only a small part of what makes you love yourself. You are more than an image. More than a number. More than a certain look. .
You have to stop bullsh*ting yourself in believing that if you looked a certain way, you will FINALLY be happy. Because it’s not true. .
Being happy comes from within (do we need to refer to the Trolls movie 🤷🏼♀️). You have to find what you love about yourself. Improve what you don’t. But don’t hate yourself because you aren’t where you want to be. .
Hating yourself will only make it harder to love you and your body. Look at it as self improvement of love. Be content with where you are and know that your hard work and effort will eventually pay off but don’t let it stop there. .
You are worthy of loving yourself body and soul together as one. Regardless of what you think, you should only be pleasing yourself and not what others think or say. Don’t let people or social media make you feel bad about how you look or feel. .
This is me telling you to not be ashamed of your progress. Small, big, little, whatever it may be, be proud of who you are and what you are doing. Build yourself up. Don’t let others tear you down because you don’t fit their standards. .
Leave it to me to tell you like it is and show you that not all experience the same sh*t. You find out who you really are once you start following your own path. ❤️
The best way to deal with individuals that feel okay with attacking others on social media is to TURN AWAY and pay no mind to them. Remember, expressing hate is like drinking poison. The words we spit are the words we eat. We must focus our attention on those that respect us and those that support our inner world. The ego creates separation and if in any way those hateful words do get to us, it is our responsibility to understand why and NOT REACT. If we react to hate, we are the hate. (We can still stand up for ourselves, just not during the mists of chaos). Remember, the ego creates separation. It is love that unites us. And that my friends is called self-love.
What makes you feel alive? To feel alive and be alive is two different stories. Surviving life is another.
Of course in periods of life is it about surviving, maybe you have a busy period at work. Maybe you have issues in your close relationship. Remember this is life also, and bad days arent bad years. Maybe you are looking for a change? You cant change the people around you, the only person you are responsible for is YOU. And you can change.
Close your eyes and be quiet, find that place inside of you where you can imagine your perfect day. Who are you with? What is the weather like? What can you smell? What feelings can you sense?
Then aim to make your days like that. One day at a time. Be the change you want to see in others. 🦋
We were talking yesterday about loyalty and how when in a relationship is it important to have the same view of others as each other or is it ok to have your own connection or not with someone regardless of our partner ... I used to think our loyalty to each other was far more important than our loyalty to someone else but time and time again I was shown that was not necessarily true and it depended on our ability to be sufficiently in alignment with ourselves so we did not seek approval outside of ourselves and also our ability to take self responsibility for our own relationships not expect others to necessarily see our point of view because it is nobody’s responsibility but ours to decide how we feel.
Many say perception is everything and in every given moment we are given the opportunity to allow our perception to work for us or against us ...our ability to notice this sliding door comes down to our connection with ourselves as well our ability to take nothing personally but remain personal to be kind but take no shit.
They say another’s judgement of us is a reflection of them, our observation of this judgement is an awareness of ourselves ...nothing anyone else does is because of you so when things are not looking how you ‘hoped’ they would allow yourself the grace of time to get the help and guidance you need to shift those sails in the direction you do want to go .. because you are always worth it and whenever there is a why there will be a how.
Loyalty is of course key to all relationships but when you are loyal to yourself your perception is such that you accept what is,notice everything and choose to play the now forward well because your perception of the now affects both your body chemistry and reality of tomorrow and that becomes priceless.