“What will they think of me” must be put aside for bliss. - Joseph Campbell .
The fastest way to inner peace I have found is to imagine and then live as though no one has an opinion about me. And guess what? No one does. Everybody has an opinion, a filter, beliefs they hold about themselves and the world, moralistic values that they have been raised by, assumptions, interpretations, preferences.... and sometimes I happen to stand where they are looking.
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We don't just find a huge tree with beautiful fruits and flowers overnight,
No matter how much you water it, it takes a time,
No matter how much sunlight you give it,
it takes a time
And so, neither can a relationship, it takes a time
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To lovers out there.. You can’t compare love, because love is something that can be felt more than something that can be seen.
Don’t look at other people relationship and wish that your partner was doing the same . If you say ,you are different, unique and special. Why do you want to be loved the same way as others ? Why can’t you be loved more than anyone ?
-De philosopher DJ Kyos
Is it possible that the issue with all these ‘emotionally unavailable men’ is a problem of toxic femininity rather than toxic masculinity?
Hear me out.
I’m witnessing an epedemic of emotionally unavailable men. IF I were to believe every woman that claims this about a man, that is. .
Instead, I see what’s playing out underneath the surface. I see the shadow side of the ‘feminine rising’. I see the blind spots in our feeling our feelings, expressing our emotions, taking our power back. Calling men out, being radically honest, and so on. .
No amount of shaming men is going to give you your power back. No amount of feeling your feelings is going to resolve what keeps these feelings coming back again and again. No amount of expressing your emotions is going to create deeper intimacy if you don’t own your part. No amount of being HONEST is going to have to do anything with TRUTH if you are speaking from an open WOUND rather than an open HEART. .
Here’s the thing. We ALL experience, relate to, and express our feelings differently. And while we share certain needs, no two people have the exact same set of wants, needs, desires, values, and so on. This gap is to be used for inner evolution - for turning inwards and be present with our own vulnerability, for tending to all the places that cry out for love and nourishment. .
What happens when we label others as ‘unavailable’ is often us trying to cope with those places hurting. We superimpose our desires over what they are able or willing to give us in the connection, and equate the old pain of not being cared for, of not being seen, held, met and felt with them, rather than the source of this pain, which resides within. .
What pushes men (and women that embody both a mature masculine and feminine) away, is not their being emotionally unavailable. It is them being unapologetically unavailable for your projections and trying to soothe what ultimately can only be soothed by yourself, through another. .
Let the people around you know what you want and need. Yes. Absolutely. [CONTINUED IN COMMENTS]