Things I didn’t know could be anxiety.
Disclaimer: This post is not meant to suggest that just because you do one or some of these things then you might have anxiety. This post is not meant to be a substitute for diagnosis. This is a list of common things I see in my office that are more uncommonly thought of as symptoms of anxiety. There is a great value in allowing people a chance to reflect and look at their own thoughts/feelings/behaviours as a way of coming closer to themselves. Without awareness, we cannot heal.
Some people I see in my office talk about these traits and behaviours in addition to their feelings of worry, helplessness, and fear. These are additional indicators that anxiety is impacting someone’s day-to-day. Conversely, of course, these can be symptoms of other processes (and not simply a function of anxiety). Some of them might not be indicative of any problem at all.
It’s important to consult a doctor or a mental health professional if you’re concerned about your overall mental health, experiencing sudden changes, or simply just want to have some questions answered. My suggestion would be to check in with professionals who have a knowledge of attachment/relationships and trauma and those who are survivor-centred and social-justice informed.
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I know this subject is an uncomfortable one. I know some of you wish I would let it go. I know some of you don't believe me. I want you to know from the bottom of my heart #idontcare . #delete#block#unfollow
The first 17 years of my life were filled with #trauma . Eight of those years I was molested.
Once I came into the knowledge I had been violated, the pressure was on me of what to do next.
Who do I tell? Who will believe me? Do I call the police? Will my parents be arrested even though I never told them?
Was any of this my fault?
There are so many of #us living silently and in the darkness of shame.
You don't have to be ashamed, because you didn't do anything wrong.
Sexually abuse, molestation, rape, nonconsensual sex is #wrong .
Parents!!!!!!!!! Please don't be fooled!!! Kids molest other kids!!! Don't be naive!!!! It doesn't always have to be an adult.
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#selflove journey lesson 9 up now!
Link in the bio don't forget to check out the other blogs in the series of our self love lessons! "Growth comes from facing challenging and difficult situations, ones that we would rather avoid or brush under the carpet.
In some ways they are more valuable than a formal education and give us an insight into our strengths and the weaknesses that may need work on.
I let go of the panic that came with trying to control a particular situation and worrying myself sick over the outcomes by letting things happen “organically”. For me this meant allowing things to take their natural course without forcing it into a certain direction or expecting a very specific outcome." .
Various versions of my earlier self:
〰️Chugged 3 shots of espresso from my daily Seattle coffee hut every morning, when my body actually just needed WATER
〰️Sought romance when I needed to be single (or would have benefitted from time to grieve the last relationship)
〰️Bartended without realizing I was a therapist-in-training and should get my butt to grad school (this one still gives me a good laugh)...
〰️ The list goes on and on!
When I imagine myself chatting with her now, I honor her for having always known what she needed (your inner self likely did too, even if way down deep inside!) but share with her that she will benefit most from tuning into that knowledge and honoring through action. ✨
I would tell her to shush and listen! 😇
What would your former self want to know? How can you forgive and cherish that person for helping you get to where you are now? What would that practice look like for you?
And most importantly, can you trust that he/she/they were a meaningful and HELPFUL part of your path all along? 💛
Cheers to all of the former versions of all of you, in all of their messy glory! Glad they are here with us in growing form today. 🌲
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Anytime a lay person hears about health anxiety, phobias, or general irrational anxieties, they often want to dispel the fear with an explanation of probabilities. While it’s true that possibility doesn’t equate to probability, the anxious mind doesn’t work on reason. If it did, most of us wouldn’t feel so anxious. Anxiety hijacks our logical brain and triggers parts of our brains that don’t respond well to reason. In fact, sometimes reason can give an anxious person even more to worry about. Only observing, labeling, and accepting anxiety for what it is can help dispel anxious thoughts.
Reposted from @thewalkingdadexperience (@get_regrann) - Hello y'all. Me again. I know @ghost_magfed is already in the process of a video, but I'd like to also throw out what I carry in terms of a booboo bag. Now, I know some people refer to these as an IFAK/Blowout Kit/Med Kit or what have you. In a sense they are, but what I'm going over is something used for injuries you'd see on the paintball field, not something like I or Doug would see in the course of our duties. So, with that in mind, what I carry can be found online at narescue.com, as well as any medical store (with the exception of a few items marked with an asterisk). So, here's my booboo bag: *One roll medical tape
*One pen light
*Four rolls of 3" gauze
*One SAM splint (*)
*Two packets of QuikClot bandages (*)
*One Israeli Trauma Dressing (*)
*One CAT tourniquet (*)
*Ten 4x4 gauze pads
*Ten 2x2 gauze pads *Five 5x9 "Abd" pads *Two Cravats (w/ Bobby pins)
*Twelve alcohol prep pads *One set of trauma shears
Again, this is what I carry based on my skill set and equipment. As always, I stress the need for training. It's one thing to look cool with all the equipment, it's another thing entirely to know donkey dick about it. I'll cover training if enough interest is generated on this post. @whiskeytwofour Omni bag makes a good hip bag, so I'm glad to have pulled the trigger on it
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I had the opportunity to attend a really great training this weekend with TRY Trauma Recovery Yoga. We are all suffering from trauma in one way or another, and this trauma can manifest in so many different ways in our lives. We are all hurt and when we are hurt, we tend to hurt others. This training did an excellent job of presenting, from both the perspectives of science and spirituality, the ways in which trauma affects our bodies and how yoga has been proven to be a powerful and effective modality for profound healing.
Some of us are still holding on to things that are killing us just because that’s how we grew up
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Una imagen que me recuerda esos momentos como hoy cuando el dolor arrecia y mi cuerpo me envía mensajes
Hago STOP y me detengo a descifrar el mensaje. Antes sólo buscaba el analgésico para callar el dolor y muchas veces el se resistía o yo me rendía
Hoy me pregunto: ¿Por qué estás aquí? ¿Qué necesito revisar? ¿Dónde me estoy equivocando? ¿Qué necesito cambiar? ¿A caso hay que cambiar de rumbo, replantear objetivos? ¿A caso necesito alejarme de algo o de alguien?..
“Be wary of saying or doing anything to a child that you would not do to another adult, whose good opinion and affection you valued.” are wise words by John Holt
And yet they can be so hard to live by
Because we inherently have so much power over our children
Which gives us easy ways to discharge our pain, frustration and lack of self reflection
So much easier to shout at a child, or to use a control technique such as bribery or taking something good away (aka punishment), than to make time to listen and connect
To find the Yes to everyone
Because there is always a Yes to everyone
Even if you can’t see it
I have turned to my boys, in exasperation, and said “I just don’t know what the Yes is, do you?” and they always offer up at least one brilliant Yes
Because our kids have amazing things to offer us
Not speed or productivity in ways that help us
Or values of efficiency or punctuality that we have become wedded to
Instead they offer us their simple unquestioning love and trust
So that we can guide them
And lead them
Into a world that has wonderful things in store for them
Alongside inevitable adversity and dark nights of the soul
Which I’d argue are also wonderful when you have the right perspective
So be kind and gentle with your words and actions
And plan enough space in your day so that your patience doesn’t need to wear thin
Carry snacks and water as an unplanned picnic may be required because the field holds too many flowers and insects and the sky hosts so many birds and clouds that being home in time for tea is simply not going to happen
Connect connect connect
And maybe sit with them on the pavement waiting for the bus that they insist is coming even though you know it isn’t
Find a Yes to Joy, peace and connection
Love Bea x
[image shows Bea’s nephews walking through a field underneath a cloudy sky. The text reads: simple wisdom for spending time with children]
If you’d like help and support with your Yes Parenting journey please send me a DM or use my contact form at beamarshall.com - link in bio @yesparenting
🚨💥New Episode💥🚨 w/ influencer Dr. Justin S Hopkins Psy.D (@dochop_@DrJSHopkins) whom discovered at a young age while hanging out at his grandfathers’ Barbershop, that the was one of the only places in the World where Black Men talked about their issues! Lack of mental health resources in his community helped him discover an opportunity & niche in the world of Psychology!
Tune in to hear:
- How #Trauma from Slavery, Black Codes, Jim Crow, & Segregation still plagues the black community & passes down through generations. - How financial inequality dangers our mental health.
- How to deal with the unconscious mind to learn more about yourself & bring you a happier more fulfilling life.
This Psychodynamic #Clinician is laying it all down in this deep episode on how #psychodynamic#therapy can play a vital role in liberating people from oppressive norms.
The number 7 has always been considered lucky for one reason or another.
It has been how many seconds I had left before an accident I've had proved fatal.
How far I came from losing the use of my legs.
How many days I was incapable of standing up
Theres a variety of these moments I've had, but one that stands out is how many months old I was before I came to be.
Premature and attached with a story.
I was born in chile.
I was also born premature due to complications my mother had suffered due to stress and trauma. *the details are severe, so I'll refrain from those*
Problem was my mother was in too much pain and could not reach the hospital in time. The closest she came to was a clinic which may have been limited in resources, but was fully stocked with heart. *I'm also painfully aware on how cheesy that sounded*
My mother was given a choice. Due to the complications she suffered, if she were to have me there was high chance that she would die in the process. Not only that, there was no guarantee that I would come out alive.
So really going in this, I was already a write off. Nevertheless, she relented and signed a waiver, leaving it all to chance.
The surgery took place, they pulled me out and managed to save her in that process.
On the other end, I was out but I had been declared dead.
For whatever reason that compelled that doctor to try as hard as he did for 30 minutes, it was enough to bring me into the fold and give me life.
For the remained of that evening that doctor would not let me go. I was told he was emotional and relieved to have manage to pull off the "impossible." Its situations like this where you are reminded that no matter the odds, you mustn't quit.
Of course, this ideology works for those doing the best they can when they cannot continue further.
When your abilities/skills come into practice, not when you are imposing yourself on to others.
This is something I strive to work towards every single day, to give a little bit more, to push a little bit harder, to not let life write me off.
I owe that doctor exactly that and myself even more.
You won this shot at life.
So you were already born lucky.
Mmm indulge in a little self hatred, it’s a cheat day🥴🤤🤩
10 6514 August, 2019
I’m literally Van Gogh minus the talent and success and originality🥴🥴🥴
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@ancientlampagain this is how to be me and I’m better than lamp so everyone can just follow this guide instead💕😌💅 also an outtake and a template
2 6812 August, 2019
And now in sports, I’m gorgeous! 🥰🥰🥰
7 7812 August, 2019
Literally I cannot handle the most basic things in life so that’s really fun. I think I have a worm eating the frontal lobe of my brain or something hahah quirky
4 7112 August, 2019
I’m so cute and pretty and funny I shouldn’t have to touch you in bed! I’m high femme bc I’m just that amazing, not Bc my past has psychologically ruined any chance of me being normal, socially and sexually😈😈😈
7 10011 August, 2019
Attention all cute girls! I’m making a gang of cute girls to fight against toxic masculinity. It’s called Cute Girls Against Guys, and I plan on hangin- I mean discussing with our first guy, Ben Shapiro, about patriarchal culture in America today. Let me know if you’re interested!! 🥴🤩🤑
13 8811 August, 2019
The foundation of my meticulously curated personality is being “chill”. Whatever that means 🤥
12 8810 August, 2019
Collab with da FRENCH😳 @aaaaron420 can you guys believe I happened to be in Europe when I collabed with a French memer I’m so funny and quirky like that hehe xD anyways here’s a bisexual pride post w an amazing graphic Aaron made😻
1 9210 August, 2019
Collaborating with my mom and sister lol😎🖼my mom took these pictures of me and when I saw the first one I made it into a meme and showed her and my sis. They laughed and said I should use the second photo and make a good parallel version. My sister wants me to print these out and put them on my college dorm door on like a back to back piece of paper
12 889 August, 2019
Collab with @sitting_in_my_tin_can my lesbian mother and BDF (best druggie friend) 🥰🥰 love you babe this was so fun to make
4 1129 August, 2019
The only feral pigs I know of are the American police force but like whatever 🤧🤧🤧
3 739 August, 2019
@blahblahlion CAN EVERYONR PLRASE FUCKING VALIDATE ME I CANT DO ANYTBJNG UNTIL EVERYONE TELLS ME HOW GREAT I AM!!!!!
22 938 August, 2019
This collab was with the very funny and very talented @donnievvellinger !! He’s one of my irl friends who makes really cool stuff like this image. He does it all by himself! no cheating by using anime girls like me😳🤭 So check him out🚰😴😾also I do be wrapping things around my arm, both boys and belts ;)
Not to be a bitch… but I hate children and babies and anything that doesn’t shut the fuck up 🤑
4 707 August, 2019
Literally this picture is a random wall w graffiti in Paris. I know the text I added sucked but I loved these dogs and wanted everyone to see them and appreciate them. They’re the cutest!
22 827 August, 2019
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We make sense of our automatic reactions with our brain. So what would it be like to take a step back and have nervous system mindfulness?
As in, name what’s happening inside before you react, or write the story, or judge yourself.
Notice your body & nervous system with curiosity and not shame. The world does enough of that, creating internal safety often comes from deep self compassion.
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Learning what gaslighting was changed my whole freaking life.
It validated every time that I had made to feel crazy by others & the world.
That I wasn’t “wrong” or “crazy” or always at fault.
Patriarchy/white supremacy/het&cis normative culture gaslights us (we are crazy, there is something wrong with us, it’s always our fault, we are never good enough).
And within this culture, people can make us feel this way too. People of any gender can internalize this way of treating others. Can buy in for more privilege.
If anyONE or any THING makes you feel this way it’s just not OK. It never is.
Learning is the first way to getting free.
Through generations of inherited trauma, we’ve lost touch with what authentic love looks and feels like. That’s why I’m so grateful for this community— we are having important conversations around what’s been kept in the dark for far too long.
Codependency and self betrayal are themes in all of our music, movies, and entertainment. A mirror, reflecting back to us where we are as a collective.
Our relationships hold the power to heal, but they can also be reenactments. Repeats of what we all seek: the familiar from childhood.
We are shifting the relationship paradigm— with so many of us waking up from that re-enactment.
What’s the biggest “ah ha” moment you’ve had about yourself in a relationship? #selfhealers