I can’t believe it has been 3-months since I became Mrs. Wilkinson and in the words of Taylor Swift “ They say home is where the heart is, But that's not where mine lives, You know I love a London boy” Lucky for me, I have a home wherever I go because Sean is there by my side. Which leads me to finish up this row all things little details from our wedding day with the last part of our wedding… We were worried about rain all week but it held off leading to us being able to exchange vows without getting wet. There was a simple cocktail hour before guests made their way to the beautiful @agriturismocignale where we hosted our reception and after-party. Andrea along with our wedding planner and the Cignale staff made the already gorgeous Cignale breathtaking. Each guest got a wooden name tag and we served not one not two but three courses of pasta with wine. All the ingredients were locally sourced but most of them were grown right there at Cignale. In-between courses, loved ones gave us toasts and speeches that were full of love and only slight mortification (Thanks @suzay0228 !) The cake couldn’t have been a better representation of Sean and I. Baked by @3d_kelleigh she made 3 layers with each one a reflection of our taste. Pistachio and Cardamom, Chocolate with Baileys and a traditional sponge, again decorated with olive leaves (not sure if you sense a theme) and flowers. It was a labor of love from @3d_kelleigh and took three days to make. The whole wedding was a labor of love with help from family and friends who helped us decorate and celebrate. As soon as we cut the cake, Sean’s brother @salad.sage did a surprise performance with a song that he wrote about us and honestly, was so touching and a reminder of how lucky I am to have gained such an incredible new family. Our first dance song was Rose of My Heart by Johnny Cash. Even as a light rain fell, we danced, we laughed and drank cocktails and ate even more Abruzzo classics arrosticini and porchetta until the early morning. #WilkinDownTheAisle was just as it was meant to be.
I know I've been quiet this week and I'm not going to apologize for it. .
I was at home with my family which usually only happens once a year so I was trying to be intentional and prioritize my time with them. Ya dig? .
When you think about your life and the choices you make - what is it that you prioritize? .
That being said I've got all kinds of goodness headed your way this week, so stay tuned!
Hope everyone’s weekend is as beautiful as this weather Ohio is having 🌤 This photo was last weekend, inside the huge Ferris wheel at the Navy Pier ! It was so cool seeing Chicago from up there. What are you doing this weekend ?
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I was on a very early flight to St. Louis and as we began our descent, the pilot came on the speaker and said "WAAAAAKEEEE UP Y'ALL. WE ARE COMIN' IN TO ST. LOUIS. NOW I KNOW YOUR MAMA TAUGHT YOU SOME MANNERS SO YOU BETTER BE THROWING YOUR TRASH OUT WHEN THE ATTENDANTS COME BY. GET READY!" ...and that's why I always fly Southwest 💁
How far do you go for pictures? .
As I plan for the next few days, I am planning my day around the pictures I want to take. Which seems like I am just "doing it for the 'gram", but I love photographs. And I want the best possible picture, so I will be getting up before dawn to try and get some good photos over Barcelona... which is what I did to get these photos of the Golden Gate Bridge. Having a tourist place to myself is the most amazing thing even if it means waking up unbearably early! #joygoesglobal
Thanks for all the support as my first few travel days have been less than perfect. Took today to mostly rest and feeling much better!
If anyone has any suggestions for Valencia or Bilbao. Spain, comment below!!
Just chilling in the mouth of a Pagoda tiger before the typhoon reached us here in Kaohsiung. I’ve been enjoying the island of Taiwan this last week and think it has a chilled out Hong Kong vibe to it. The night market food is so tasty and I’ve now officially become a bubble tea addict! So glad @gracepops has been able to join us for the last leg of the trip
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Waking up the day I was getting married wasn’t some serene moment if I am being totally honest. I woke up slightly panicked and stressed with the last minute things that needed doing (putting together the tips, shaving my legs, etc) but I also couldn’t wait. I was slightly impatient with a bit of everything needs to go slow as possible so I can remember it. We were getting married at 5 PM but before that, we had to get married in the town hall, where the mayor married us to make it all legal. Fun fact, the mayor is also my mothers neighbor. We might have signed the documents but held off on the kiss for later on. We got got ready with our own respective parties. Driving up the ceremony, I chose to go in a car with my brother. It was a really short but special moment as he played “Today I Met The Boy I’m Gonna Marry” by Darlene Love. It was a bit of surreal moment for both of us and a memory that will stay with me for a long time.
The wedding didn’t start on time, which for those who know me, know thats a big deal. I hate being late to anything but I ams o glad I was running 10 minutes behind because there was a slight emergency that if the ceremony had started I am just not sure it would have recovered. This is why I so recommend having a wedding planner or a day of coordinator. @larabesquevents Made sure that the emergency was taken care of and our guest that needed help got it and they were healthy and safe to stay. It could have been chaotic and a brides worst nightmare but as we waited for news and what was going to happen next, my bridesmaids did the best thing they could do in the situation while waring formal clothes. They brought out a bottle of prosecco meant for the cocktail hour and we chugged it in a circle as we (they) shared memories. Once we got the all clear and that the guest was going to be just fine, I couldn’t wait to get up that aisle.
Sean and I got married in the upper square of Montefino, a first for the town. They are more used to Church weddings and as a result lots of locals from not just Montefino but the surrounding areas came to watch Sean and I exchange our vows. Read the rest in the comments!
I am not usually a "been there, done that- bucket list" kind of person, but I do have to confess that the main reason I wanted to see the Chichén-Itzá was to have seen my number 4 of the 7 modern wonders of the world 🤷♀️😂
And it was quite impressive, BUT
- Tikal in Guatemala was a hundred times more impressive and there were almost no tourists
-if you decide to visit the Chichén-Itzá make sure you get there as early as possible to avoid the masses!
Closing the week out smiling! And no, it’s not a mural, it’s a wall painted in stripes! 📷 @aundi_lanae •
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Did we mention we love murals? This one is also in Nashville! Does your city have cool street art?
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Starting off Budapest with this adorable shot of us because 1. We're cute and 2. It's his birthday!! While you may not be able to see the great view behind us, you can see the smiles on our faces, brought about by being together in such an amazing place. Budapest had long been on our list to go to together and this road trip finally made it come true!
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I had such a fun time showing my friends @perforating_vixen & mark around Alaska! Two plus size chicks ruled the last frontier this past week.
We did some AWESOME stuff together in this beautiful place, and there so much left to do!
Kayaked in Seward to Tosina Beach 🚣🏻♂️ from @millerslanding
Sailed across Ailik Bay to see tidewater glaciers calve into the ocean & Orcas frolicking in the sea! 🐬 with @majormarinetours
Camped by the ocean & hiked up a river where salmon were spawning 🏕
Went gold panning at a hundred year old mining claim, and hiked to water falls ⛏🥾 at @crowcreekmine
Hung out with some moose & a bald eagle named Adonis at the @akwildlife center 🦌
We’re just a few days away from 3-months of being married!!! To celebrate I wanted to share a few more things about our wedding. I promise after the 25th, this will return to all things travel but I wanted to share a few of the details that made this day so special to us. It did after all take a year of planning with @larabesquevents! .
We had two days of events in the lead up to our wedding day with a pool welcome party full of Aperol Spritz and freshly baked bread from the Pizza oven that Sean and his brother made from scratch. We gifted our friends and family their own Moka pots, fresh ground coffee and local chocolate made fresh in the town near to Montefino. Little bits of Italy that we love that could be used then and not take up too much space on the flights home. With it came welcome postcards that Sean designed. It was filled with what we thought to be helpful Italian phrases such as “You look beautiful” to “I need another drink” and more information for sleepy Montefino like where to eat or shop. .
The night before the wedding we had a rehearsal cocktail hour where my mother and her BFF brought my Pinterest boards to life with a wedding cake made out of the most delicious and fresh cheese and prosciutto so sweet and smooth. We served fresh gnocchi and tiramisu too. All made by Sylvana who gifted us those tasty treats as a wedding gift and made with so much love. Later on, we ended the night with our bridal and grooms party at our favorite pizza place in town, Greenland. Which brings me to the end of part 1 of #WilkinDownTheAisle . I’ll share more tomorrow if you fancy seeing more, otherwise, I’d ignore my page for a few days!
This has been an incredible 3 days. 3 takeways from my time in LA!
1. Your hard work can out weight natural talent. Your talent can only take you so far, you have to put in that work.
2. Stepping out on fears will get you further than trying to control your situation.
3. I look good in my swimsuit 😎😎
I wake up smelling possiblities and opportunities and I'm excited to strive to see this travel space be more inclusive for Chubby People!!
I got to thinking about this while listening to a podcast. People talk about their why a lot, whether it’s why they’re starting a new business, blog, or why they want to get involved in something new. I’ve got several small, more specific why’s…but I got to thinking of the overall why.
Because I want my experiences, good, bad and ugly, to help others. Even if it’s just one person, that’s enough.
I’ve talked a bit on here about the Down Dog app. @Vicdoesyoga introduced me to it and I’ve now shared it with several people, both online and in real life. My mom, sister and a few cousins started using it and love it. And it helped them!
I talk about my experiences as a fat/plus person, sometimes as a way to meet other people like me, but mostly as a way to reach out to the younger people in my situation. As an example. Maybe I’m an example of how not to do things or maybe I give them hope. Either way it’s to help someone.
Unfortunately, too often I share/post things just because, or for likes. Or because I feel like I have to for fear of losing followers or statistics. Well. I’m going to try to be way more intentional moving forward, and make sure each and every post and story is aligned with my why. There’s too much stuff online to bother you guys with something that isn’t going to help or inspire someone else, you know?
There's always a moment in every day that I feel the pull to wander, to travel, to explore, to just go. The ocean calls to me. Rolling hills, moss-covered stones, dramatic clouds, and rocky shores beckon me.
Traveling with a loved one has got to be one of the best things in the world. Where would you travel to with your loved one anywhere in the world? How about Scotland like @divinemrsdiva did! 🌍❤️ Make sure to tag @plussize_couples and use the hashtag #plussizecouples to be featured!
I’ve been really hard on my body lately, using way more negative language than usual, because of new fitness goals that don’t seem to be showing as fast of results as I thought. But this body of mine got me up and down a fucking glacier in 4 hours. Grateful for my strong legs that stomped those spikes deep enough into the ice. Grateful for my big strong booty that got me up steep inclines and down steep declines while squatting. Grateful for my arms that caught me when I almost slipped. Grateful for this heart that kept me moving and gave me courage to “do” when the world is constantly telling bigger bodies they “can’t” and “don’t”. I’ll continue to work on my goals, but have to remember to be kind to myself. #blessed#nowrongway#effyourbeautystandards#celebratemysize#beautybeyondsize#southiceland#fatgirlstraveling#travelinclusivity
It’s gonna be ok.
So I’ve been stressed recently, with work and personal stuff, and this weekend all my emotions came to a head. And you know what? It’s gonna be ok. I’ve made lists, I’m making a plan of action and I’m not allowing myself to get overwhelmed.
So here’s to a productive (and hopefully successful) week for me and you!
Self confidence & Swim suits, two things that don’t easily go hand in hand for me.
This may be surprising since I love swimming so much but I had never worn a 2 piece until last month when I tried one on that I had bought online.
I don’t even think as a young girl I wore one...
I’ve always “dreamed” of wearing one.
For most of my life it wasn’t even a thought it could happen.. then slowly over the last couple years I’ve seen more people of different sizes on their adventures wearing two pieces, people of ALL different sizes.
Then it started become more tangible.. the thought of wearing a 2 piece.
But still, I would look at these people of all different sizes and my brain would say “well they don’t look exactly like me. Their thighs aren’t just like mine, their rolls are less prominent than mine.” Etc.
Coming up with all of these excuses to tear myself down. Any excuse to hide my body, being vulnerable is scary!
After weeks of looking at swim suits for my big solo trip coming up I finally did it...
- after looking at enough photos of other people of all sizes rocking their bodies at the beach, I took the plunge.
To make it even more crazy - I then shared it with the internet... (as a post within Girls LOVE Travel) because I thought hey, why not share my struggle, maybe someone else is struggling too.
The response I got changed me...
I went out and bought ANOTHER two piece, because I felt like the safety was finally off, the safety blanket of cover ups and wearing only swim dresses.
Now I’m on that vacation in Thailand, I’ve worn that two piece both times I’ve been to the beach, been snorkeling in the water, and I have felt so free by it.
Pic and Caption by GLTer: @havecurveswilltravel
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#TheFacesOfDameTraveler ✨ We love the inspiring @fromannettewithlove of @fatgirlstraveling. “Society tells fat women we don't even deserve to leave the house—let alone the country," Richmond told @Refinery29. "Getting on a plane and putting yourself in a position to be judged…can be so paralyzing that many don't dare leave the comfort zone of their hometown." So nothing makes Richmond happier than hearing from a @fatgirlstraveling fan who found the courage to take their first trip after finding the hashtag, joining the Facebook group, or reading Annette’s blog” - @selfmagazine 🦋
“I think our differences are what make us unique and that no two people are the same on the outside or the inside. There are people struggling with invisible illnesses everyday, whether it be physical or mental, and the bottom line is, you don’t know what that person is going through. So just be kind. Pretend that’s your mother, or sister or daughter, how would you want them to be treated? There’s so much truth in the simple adage of ‘Treat people the way you want to be treated.’” - Huff Po #dametraveler#dametravelermalaysia#travelinclusivity